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IT’S YOUR LIFESounds obvious, but if you’ve ever worked for or with someone who is skilled at manipulation by intimidation you know how easy it is to forget.
Reminding yourself that you own your life and only you can decide what is best, appropriate, or right for you is the first step to standing firm. Everything is about keeping score and making you feel that you are always in the red with them.
One of my clients recently told me that his motivation for starting his entrepreneurial journey now is that he has recently acquired a boss who believes in “leading by intimidation.” When this boss says “I need to talk to you,” everyone knows it be a casual conversation about whether you’re having pizza or barbecue brought in for a team meeting or it might be a demeaning chew out session.
My client has decided he never wants to work for someone else again.
Which means they feel really, really small indeed.“I own my life, I only owe what I agreed to do or pay, I have tremendous value and the intelligence and ability to increase my value every day, being here is my choice and if I decide it is not my best choice I can always leave, and finally, this poor person is more unhappy than they can ever cause me to be so I can be a big enough person to offer them a little compassion even as I refuse to let them steal my power.”Let that run through your thoughts often enough and you will find that, even though your situation may not change immediately, your attitude will change, and that will change your situation when nothing else can.
There are numerous psychological tricks for dealing with intimidating people and I’m going to outline the most important ones below.
Believe it or not, we all feel like children inside, no matter what age we are.
The more emotional intelligence one has the easier it is to deal with intimidation from others.
If you’re under contract, that choice may have unattractive consequences, but it is still a choice.